Yup. You read the title right.
Ever left two magnets nearby and see them come together?
Okay, so we get these magnets called snake magnets (refer above pic), which make some funny sound and are fun to play with.
So, here's what I think. We people are also similar to these snake magnets, left a nearby distance tend to be attracted to each other like the magnets which come close and hit each other, they collide and move away, then again due the force of attraction, come back together again and hit again but this time with lesser magnitude and this goes on again and again until it finally stops. At this point both the magnets are stationary and so glued to each other so tightly, that they need a very great force to be separated.
We people are also somewhat similar. Initially from a distance we are attracted, come closer and closer then repel, fight! and move away, come back again closer and fight again but with lesser magnitude, go away only to come back soon and then one day, you just stick together never to be separated apart.
This is the day one should wait for. This is the day one should hope for, for any relationship to be fruitful. Let go off any misunderstandings that come along. Resolve any issues you have with the other person, with him. Have fruitful discussions and most importantly stay calm. Give each other the space and time they need to be themselves. Understanding each other is the most important thing for any relationship.
Everything is changing, this will also change.
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If
someone has done something wrong, don’t hold on to it. If a mistake has
happened through you, like you forgive others their mistakes, you
should also forgive yourself. Forgive yourself and forgive others; don’t
chew on others' mistakes or your own mistakes.
When you chew on the
mistakes of others, you get angry. When you chew on your own mistake,
you will feel guilty and you will drown in your own depression. Both are no good. Spirituality takes you away from all this.
As it is said, to err is human. You make mistakes, but don’t sit and
chew on your own mistake or someone else's mistake. If someone has made a
mistake you should forgive and forget. If you have made a mistake, you
should ask for forgiveness and move on. Don’t get stuck; feel free!
If you are upset with yourself, you can get angry with others very
easily. And if you’re angry with others, you will get upset with
yourself. Both these positions are not favorable."
"Consider
a mistake as just a mistake - not as ‘mine’ or ‘his’. ‘Mine’ brings
guilt, and ‘his’ brings anger. A mistake is a mistake. Neither guilt nor
anger need to be linked to it. Then, you’ll stop a lot of nonsense from
happening."
- H.H. Sri Sri Ravi Shankar.
So make mistakes! It only proves that you still have scope for improvement, that you are still a human and living. Most importantly learn from those mistakes and try not to repeat them. It's okay that once in a while you repeat mistakes, but that doesn't justify your doing. Make yourself a better person from the mistakes you make.
Ask for forgiveness by putting out all your ego aside and put your whole heart out. When you ask with your whole heart and consciousness, there will be no regret even from you, nor from the other person to forgive and forget your mistake.
Forgive people, after all, even they are humans just like you. If possible, let it go off your mind, don't even remember it. Remembering others mistakes and holding onto it, only makes things difficult for both of you, just let it go.
-Some thoughts of me. Let me know if you think any edits are needed. I would happily appreciate and welcome if you too have any thoughts to contribute to this.
-Dre@mer.
(originally written about 3 years ago but left it in the drafts. Publishing it on 19-09-2019 for the first time without any re-reads/edits)
